Today's packed lunch for my kids
meatball, chikuwa (fish paste) with curry flavor,
chinjao Rosu (fried pork and green onion),
fried shumai ( Chinese-style meat dumpling) and tomato.
pickled ume and cucumber on rice
My kid told me my homemade lunch is often brown color, not colorful....
今日の弁当、ミートボール、ちくわのカレー風味、青椒肉絲、焼き焼売、トマト。
お手製のキュウリのキューちゃんと梅干 on rice.
娘曰く、私のお弁当は茶色が多いって・・・。
ごめんね、可愛い弁当を作れなくて。
Today's topic is about my daily and my way of thinking.... 
Recently I often think about how to raise children and treat with others.
There is no clear answer like math, we don't know whether our raising ways are correct or not and will find it out after a long time later, right?
I also had no idea what to do for my the first son, made a lot of mistakes and had spend anxiously every day.
To raise a kid:
After long and hard times physically, and then we have been worried mentally step by step.
Whenever I had turning points, I tried to do the best and select the best way, I think.
However, we have cases we misjudge, when we don't find it out then, some time later, we often turn out to keep giving some burden to our kids.
I fully realize it while I saw many students with a lot of characteristics and their own parents at school, and cope with cases personally.
Though I write here, the ways of my thoughts about raising kids and of taking care of my kids now might be not correct. But I believe any kids and adults can live better and respond properly as long as they want to live nicely, though it'll take a little long time in case of adults, compared with kids.
Recently, I help my friend who wants and try to restart his own life.
Owing to the problems in himself, he can't afford to go forward in spite of having his will to change himself. He has been suffered from it and managed to just live, he says.
I can't get rid of everything he feels, but can do some of them, I think.
By taking out some burden away from him, he can take some rest, which could go forward a little.
I want to cherish not the result but the process, and the attitudes to manage to go to his goal, even if the way isn't the closest and simplest.
As long as he has the will to keep going on in order to get a new life, I'll try to make him stimulated through our talks, and want to keep proceeding to his goal together steadily.
写真とは全く関係ないですが・・・
数学のように答えがはっきりとあるもんではないし、今行っている子育てが正しいのかどうかは、随分先にならないと分からないものですよね。
私も、特に一人目の時は何もかも本当に手探り状態で、数々の失敗もして、不安な毎日を送っていました。
子育てって、肉体的にしんどい日々が続いた後、段々精神的に悩むことが多くなり、その都度、自分なりに最大限の努力をして、最良の選択をしてきたつもり。
だけど、その判断が間違う時もあり、それが当時は見えなくて、ある程度時間が経って、裏面に出ることもあるんだなあって、学校でいろんな特性を持つお子さんとそのご家庭を見たり、個人的に相談に乗ったりしている中で、痛感しました。
とか言ってる私も、今持っている持論の育児論が、目下、、我が子に行っている育児が正しいのかどうかは分からないけれど、子どもが大きくなればなるほど、軌道修正に時間がかかるけれど、私はどの子、どの人も必ず出来ると、ちゃんと応えてくれると信じています。
今、自分の生活を建て直したいと頑張ろうとしている知り合いのお手伝いを私はしています。
一人では毎日の個人的に感じてしまう雑用に追われて、思いはあるけれど、なかなか前に向かって動く余裕は持てず、ただ何とか生きてる状態が続いていると本人は苦しんでいます。
その負担を全部は取り除けれないけれど、軽減くらいは出来る。軽減したことにより、少しだけ余力ができるし、それで少しでも気が休めたら、そこから少しずつ歩みだせるかもしれない。結果よりも、過程を大切にしたいし、最短距離を行かなくても、不器用でもいいから、自分で考えたことに向けて努力しようとする姿勢を大切にしたい。
その人も、今のままではあかん、自分を変えたいという気持ちを持ち続けているので、そこを話し合いの中で刺激しながら、ある目標に向けて、一緒に、着実に進んで行きたいなあと思っています。
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