My way of thinking : Slow and Steady

Today's packed lunch for my kids

meatball, chikuwa (fish paste) with curry flavor, 

chinjao Rosu (fried pork and green onion), 

fried shumai ( Chinese-style meat dumpling) and tomato.

pickled ume and cucumber on rice

My kid told me my homemade lunch is often brown color, not colorful....

今日の弁当、ミートボール、ちくわのカレー風味、青椒肉絲、焼き焼売、トマト。

お手製のキュウリのキューちゃんと梅干 on rice.

娘曰く、私のお弁当は茶色が多いって・・・。

ごめんね、可愛い弁当を作れなくて。

Today's topic is about my daily and my way of thinking.... 

Recently I often think about how to raise children and treat with others.

There is no clear answer like math, we don't know whether our raising ways are correct or not and will find it out after a long time later, right?
I also had no idea what to do for my the first son, made a lot of mistakes and had spend anxiously every day.

To raise a kid:
After long and hard times physically, and then we have been worried mentally step by step.
Whenever I had turning points, I tried to do the best and select the best way, I think.

However, we have cases we misjudge, when we don't find it out then, some time later, we often turn out to keep giving some burden to our kids.
I fully realize it while I saw many students with a lot of characteristics and their own parents at school, and cope with cases personally.

Though I write here, the ways of my thoughts about raising kids and of taking care of my kids now  might be not correct. But I believe any kids and adults can live better and respond properly as long as they want to live nicely, though it'll take a little long time in case of adults, compared with kids.

Recently, I help my friend who wants and try to restart his own life.
Owing to the problems in himself, he can't afford to go forward in spite of having his will to change himself. He has been suffered from it and managed to just live, he says.

I can't get rid of everything he feels, but can do some of them, I think.
By taking out some burden away from him, he can take some rest, which could go forward a little.

I want to cherish not the result but the process, and the attitudes to manage to go to his goal, even if the way isn't the closest and simplest. 

As long as he has the will to keep going on in order to get a new life, I'll try to make him stimulated through our talks, and want to keep proceeding to his goal together steadily. 

写真とは全く関係ないですが・・・

最近、子育てについて、子どもや人との接し方について、よく考えます。

数学のように答えがはっきりとあるもんではないし、今行っている子育てが正しいのかどうかは、随分先にならないと分からないものですよね。
私も、特に一人目の時は何もかも本当に手探り状態で、数々の失敗もして、不安な毎日を送っていました。

子育てって、肉体的にしんどい日々が続いた後、段々精神的に悩むことが多くなり、その都度、自分なりに最大限の努力をして、最良の選択をしてきたつもり。
だけど、その判断が間違う時もあり、それが当時は見えなくて、ある程度時間が経って、裏面に出ることもあるんだなあって、学校でいろんな特性を持つお子さんとそのご家庭を見たり、個人的に相談に乗ったりしている中で、痛感しました。

とか言ってる私も、今持っている持論の育児論が、目下、、我が子に行っている育児が正しいのかどうかは分からないけれど、子どもが大きくなればなるほど、軌道修正に時間がかかるけれど、私はどの子、どの人も必ず出来ると、ちゃんと応えてくれると信じています。

今、自分の生活を建て直したいと頑張ろうとしている知り合いのお手伝いを私はしています。
一人では毎日の個人的に感じてしまう雑用に追われて、思いはあるけれど、なかなか前に向かって動く余裕は持てず、ただ何とか生きてる状態が続いていると本人は苦しんでいます。

その負担を全部は取り除けれないけれど、軽減くらいは出来る。軽減したことにより、少しだけ余力ができるし、それで少しでも気が休めたら、そこから少しずつ歩みだせるかもしれない。結果よりも、過程を大切にしたいし、最短距離を行かなくても、不器用でもいいから、自分で考えたことに向けて努力しようとする姿勢を大切にしたい。

その人も、今のままではあかん、自分を変えたいという気持ちを持ち続けているので、そこを話し合いの中で刺激しながら、ある目標に向けて、一緒に、着実に進んで行きたいなあと思っています。

Swimming competition at elementary schools was over.

Almost of elementary school kids in my religion can swim very well

for a competition among some other schools at the 6th grade.

My younger daughter is the 6th grade, which is the final year at elementary school. Every school has a lot of events for them to make good memories.

Students come out and talk about their ideas, are cultivated to have positive thinking and attitudes by themselves, and learn the importance to cope with each other. And moreover, all of the processes become very good memories and will keep them into their minds forever.

And they finished one of the events the day before yesterday- A swimming competition in my area.
Several schools near my religion gathered and they had a swimming meet in a swimming pool of them. There were individual and team matches.
Though my kid's school is the smallest among them, they seemed they tried to do their bests to cheer up their frineds as loudly as they could.
And we had a good news to hear that other schools cheered up kids of her school with swimming in a long time as if they were the same school and good friends.

I thought Japanese spirits named "Yamato Damashii"that Japanese cherish a team work were inherited into this younger generations, too.


And then, as soon as the swimming competition was over, they are preparing for the sports festival event.
I listened to the music for the first time today from the school today.
Both students and teachers still have busy days......

Every year, some students can't keep company with the class.
I'm wondering how they are this year... I miss them a lot.


次女が６年生なんですが、小学校最終学年であるこの一年は、どの学校もいろんな行事が目白押しだと思います。

その行事を通して、自分らのアイデアを出し合い、話し合い、自分らの力で進めていく積極的な姿勢を養ったり、その過程において団結することの大切さを学んだり、また何よりそれら一つ一つが良い思い出として、それぞれの胸の中に蓄積されていくので、本当に濃厚な1年だと思います。

そしてビックイベントが一つ、一昨日に終わりました。
地域のいくつかの小学校が集まり、6年生による連合水泳大会が8/30に行われました。
個人競技と学校対抗リレーもあり、うちの子の学校は一番人数が少ないけれど、その分、仲間の応援をみんな力いっぱい大きな声で応援したそうです。
また、他校からも、タイムは遅くても一生懸命泳いでる6年生に、自分の学校と同じくらい大きな声で声援を送ってもらったそうで、こんな小さな子ども達の中においても、チームワームを大切にする日本魂、大和魂は受け継がれているんだな～って微笑ましく思いました。

そして、その連合水泳大会が終わってすぐに、もう学校は運動会の準備です。
今日、初めて運動会用の音楽が学校から流れて来ました。
休む間もなく、子どもも、先生も大変。

毎年この時期、集団から付いて行けない子どもが続出するのですが、どうしてるのかな～ってフッと恋しくなっちゃいました。